Choose to be happy!

Life is short, grow up before you miss out on the things that matter. The things that are worth fighting for; the things that we are going to look back on and remember. Not everything or every bond last for ever; but everything and every one we meet leave a mark on us; a mark that we are going to carry with us for the rest of our lives. But why should we? Why should we carry with us the mark someone else left on our existence? Why should we let other people in to such an extent that they mark us for life?

Probably because we are humans, and we love other human beings-and love is the best thing we do. So, in all this madness, the confusion between love and hate; why don't we choose to just carry the best things we have with us on our journey of life? Why don't we choose the things that really matter-a smile that helped us make it through the day, a word of faith that made us believe again when we were lost, a smell that reminded us that everything about this life-no matter how big or small-is beautiful and it's worth the fight and the pain!
I realised pain occupies a lot more space in our lives than happiness, and even if some of us are able to hide it deep within our souls, it comes back from time to time to haunt us. Many decided to embrace the pain and let it lead the way. But the only wise thing to do is to let it come back from time to time; because whenever it comes back, it teaches you something new, it reminds you of how strong you are and it helps you make better decision.

So, don't embrace your pain, don't carry with you a mark that someone left on your soul; choose to carry only the things that matter and choose to be the bigger person, choose to grow up because life is short and you don't want to miss out on what really matters.

The moments that made it to the 100th! :3

100th post:

Happy October/Autumn : Aka the most wonderful time of the year!

Leaves are falling and everything is very brown-orange-ish which is kind of nice :) Plus it's smelling-good memories mostly. This time of the year is always linked to this feeling that it's been a good life so far!

When you look back-there are only a few moments that stand out and they are totally worth it. I think this is what Life should be like-when you pause and remember-you should just remember the few moments that truly made you feel amazing and that remind you that happiness is what you make out of it. The moments that stand out for me are probably the bus ride to my Chemistry tuitions, the rainy Sunday mornings, the walk to Hung, the afternoons outside the classrooms on the bench, the anticipations at the bus station, the cray cray moments at our Math tuitions,the mess room,the bus ride with Pit & Heer, bunking lectures to go get high at Milky Lane, the birthday surprise, the pier, the wedding, the walk to Toof, Oxford circus, the late night stroll around London, the long long long breaks spent in empty lecture rooms/the lab, the train ride back home. If I were to get hit by a car-I am sure those are the stuff that would flash infront of my eyes just before I close them.

These are probably just stupid things, but they just stand out, mostly because those moments were spent with people I loved and are very very very good memories.

So yeah, you don't need to achieve the impossible to feel accomplished in your life-you just need to live it-with people who matter.  It doesn't matter who stays and who leaves-what really matters is what they left behind and how you felt when you were with them. 

Don't ever look back and miss people/days/moments-look back and be happy you had the opportunity to live and to be happy. Look back and thank God that you've had a great journey to date.

Plus here's a quote from last night's convo with Anii:

"Also, when you love someone-it's forever-you never stop loving them. And when you do-you forgive and forget all the wrong they do-because that's what love is all about. Finest example: Your parents. If you can't do that, then you do not love that person. It's as simple as that!"

xoxo

ZOuBanana

"We Might as Well Be Strangers"

It's weird how most of the time, the people you think are the closest to you, are actually strangers. This is something that crosses almost everyone's mind, but why not? Why should another person not be a stranger to you? No one really knows themselves thoroughly, so why on earth do you think you should know a person better than the world just because they are close to you. If at one point, even you had issues with your identity, what gives you the right to believe you can be the judge of another person's life and thoughts?

The people who are "constant" are most of the time boring; if you are not boring, you are growing everyday, you are learning new things about the world, about you-you are changing everyday. So you are allowed to be a stranger to the world, you are allowed to be a stranger to the people who are close to you, because you are growing out of who you are every day, every hour, every minute.

Everyone around you is a stranger; you think you know a person by heart, and then you are hurt because that person acts or talks in a way you never knew they could. Don't feel betrayed; everyone is entitled to change; everyone can begin anew; everyone can become a stranger to you. People do not change; they grow out of who they were; they go through stuff; they learn; they see things in a new light. It's just the way it works.

xoxo

ZOu

P.S. Happy September :)

P.P.S. 99th post of 2014

Circumstances Vs People

Circumstances do not always change people. Most of the time people change people. People can change you-not who you are-no-no one can do that and you should never allow anyone [no matter how much they tell you they are changing you for the best] change who you truly are.  People can change the way you react, the way you behave and the way you should express yourself. Especially people who are close to you-people who are so close to you that they tend to walk all over you. Don't get me wrong, it's not a bad thing[not for you atleast], it's a good thing-because when people "rain over your parade"-it gives you the chance to realise where you stand and who you should allow into your most private and intimate thoughts, ideas and dreams. When these types of people happen to you-you realise you can be a better person, you can be someone who stands on their own, you can never be told what to do, what to believe in and what to search for. 
These people happen for a reason-to help you understand the world better, to help you realise that [I found that on insta-great stuff] "they wanna see you do good, but never better than them. Remember that." So, if there is someone dictating your life-take a step back and look at your life-being controlled by someone else and realise that this is YOUR LIFE, YOUR DREAMS, YOUR GOALS-not theirs. And only you deserve to walk that path, only you deserve to lead the way-because no one gets you better than you do :)

Circumstances do not change people.

People change people.

Happy people makes you happy. Be around happy people. Be around merry people. And be around people who love you-unconditionally because they don't have any other choice than loving you-aka family, the right kind of family, the kind of family who brings out the best in you, the kind of family who points out the bad in you, the kind of family who have your back even when you turn your back on them, the kind of family who will never ever ever give up on you because you are theirs.

It's a wonderful time of the year btw [na, not Christmas yet], the perfect weather and the perfect life!

Banana =]

Don't lose yourself into someone else!

there she goes, there she goes again...

I just started watching Gilmore Girls, ahh, very late to the party but i made it and it is kind of awesome.

you know how sometimes people find themselves again in the darkness they got lost in the first place? [yeah a bit of a Lucas Scott line here, I know]

well, it's a beautiful thing-finding yourself in the darkness you thought was never going to end, finding a purpose to your life, and not quite wasting your time around anymore-that's the kind of epiphany we all need. it might take years to happen, but it eventually does, and when it does, you realise countless things and how true people are really to you.

I have said it before, and I guess I should say it again-everyone related to you-no matter how close they are to you-everyone is selfish-and no one is completely and truly yours except yourself. So, never ever ever ever get so involved into someone else's life that you forget you have one too-a life. Because there will be moments-moments where you are lost and alone-those moments will be tempting to get involved into someone else's life-and you will give it your everything because you know nothing is working for you-it could be someone you fall in love with, someone you just met, an old friend, a new friend, a family member- you will lose yourself into that person's life and it won't make yours any better. Stay away from moments like these? Maybe yes and maybe no-because only when you've been through those moments that you are going to find yourself again and you are going to regret those moments-because you had already found yourself-only you were investing yourself into someone else-and that, my friend, is the worst thing ever! [This is probably not making sense-it sounded so much better in my head!]

The point is-never ever let yourself be so invested in someone else's life-simply because it ain't yours.

Selfish people live longer.

Be selfish-especially when you lose yourself. And don't let any one tell you what is right or wrong-because what could be wrong for someone could completely be right for you. Make your own decisions, don't hire somebody for that; keep believing in what you want, keep being how you are-no matter how horrible some people might think you are-this is you-and you look pretty good to me [and a lot of people!][this was a tad  cheesy but you got the point!]

Happy August. Please note that I am over my bitter-sweet love-hate story with August.

Love,

ZOu

RainyNights

It's raining again.  Happy Birthday Harry btw :3
Rainy nights are just reminders that the stupidest thing we do in life is, falling in love with the wrong people, the wrong dreams,  the wrong realities.  They are reminders of how we sometimes believe and live in a reality that does not make sense; a reality that demands to be checked and modified because life is so much better than this.
Life is so much better than some of the things we believe in, some people we blindly trust and some dreams we have worked for-in vain.
Rainy nights are reminders that nothing lasts forever,  and those who do-well, familiarity does breed contempt, doesn't it?
Rainy nights are there because it's important you question your life and the people you allow in it.

Let's just say rainy nights keep us grounded- too much flying ain't good for health :)

Life is a roller coaster,  ain't it? We just have to choose to close our eyes when it's going down because no matter how long the fall is, it has to go up.  And no matter how scary it gets, the thrill is just as awesome.

Happy Eid :)
xoxo
Banana

Change

Samjhawan is on replay.

Sometimes, there are moments in your life- no one else can share. It doesn't matter what you are going through-happiness, victory, loneliness, loss-whatever the emotion is-there are times in life you just feel it is important you go through those particular moments by yourself. Probably because you know once this moment has gone, you will be a different person.

There are times in our lives we believe that going through pain or a big change will alter who we are, but there are times when we can change without any reason- maybe we realise something, or we just feel like it. And those are the moments you can never share with any one else, no matter how close they are to you- you know they won't understand crap and they'll probably not be of any help.

Those moments are the ones we learnt about in class [hello geeky me], being alone without being lonely- finding your way without having anyone holding out a helping hand, being happy without any reasons, crying because you can and you know you need to do it once in a while. Probably, sheer moments of enlightment, where you don't need anyone else, where you don't want anyone else-because you are finally content with your life and you feel complete without the rest of the world by your side.

On a completely different note, Brazil needs to improve-FOOTBALL AND ENTERTAINMENT-wise. Not that I was a fan. Such a shame Robben and the Oranje couldn't make it to the final, but yeah, #ComeonGermany!

Banana x